From Eowyn

Posted in From Al & Libbie, Reflections, Updates at 9:31 pm by Libbie

All right, Iím writing in because I have been informed that some people would be interested in knowing how the younger members of the Groves family are holding up with this situation God has put in our lives. So I (Eowyn) will try to put into words how life has been, and what Iíve been feeling.

Weíre all going to die someday. However, it still came as a shock when, back in January and February, we found out ďfor sureĒ that my dad is going to die. Over the past 6 months, Iíve been realizing that the day we will die doesnít change. My dadís cancer simply gives us a better idea as to when the Lord is going to take my dad to be with Him. God is more powerful than the cancer. Though the cancer seems to be controlling my dadís ability to live, I take comfort in knowing that the cancer is just part of Godís plan. Just like He also has a plan for you, and for me.

The idea of losing my dad is something thatís very hard for me. It hurts to think of life without my dad, and I am frequently emotional. However, I know that heaven is infinitely better than life here on Earth. I take comfort in the fact that when my dad is in heaven, he will be without suffering. My dadís going to be worshiping our God and King. Because the perishable will become imperishable death has lost its sting, we look with longing towards the eternity, which is symbolized by death. So as much as I wish my dad would live for the next 40 years, I know I donít need to be sad by the prospect of death. I know itís going to be hard to live with a feeling of loss, but, thanks to Jesus, I know itís really going to be an unimaginable blessing for my dad.

On top of knowing that my dad will be enjoying life in heaven, I have the added comfort and joy of knowing that someday Iím going to join Jesus and my dad in heaven. Though I look ahead with premonition towards a great loss, I also look ahead with great joy and happiness for my dad in his home-to-be.

Instead of dwelling on the fact that the time I have left with my dad is short, God has been teaching me to be thankful for the blessing of the 15 years God has put an amazing father in my life. I really couldnít ask for a better dad. My dad is loving and caring, but most importantly, he continually challenges me in my faith and points me to Christ. I truly donít know how I am going to get along without him, but I am trusting in God to take care of me, and to keep drawing me to Him.

I still struggle somewhat with the idea of death, and the prospect of my dadís cancer, but in the end I know that God is sovereign, and that He loves me and will provide for my family. In all of this, my heart has really ached for people in our situation who donít know God, and who have no hope in the face of death.

I deeply appreciate everyoneís prayers for my family, and for me. I have really felt Godís love through the body of Christ as they have surrounded us with love and prayers. My prayer is that God will bless you in your life as much as heís been blessing me, even in the midst of my dadís cancer.


PS: There is a new post from my mom below.


  1. Jan Kreft said,

    July 9, 2006 at 5:08 am

    I’ve just read your latest blog additions and am overwhelmed and humbled at what you’ve written. God is indeed so very good, and your testimony to that is too wonderful, thank you so much for sharing it. I do wish I could be closer – but I’ll continue to work on “blooming where I’m planted”!!

    Loads of love, Jan.

  2. Norman Viss said,

    July 9, 2006 at 11:44 am

    Loved your log.
    I quoted from you in my sermon today in Heemstede, Holland.
    I think you ministered to a lot of people.
    You can see what I said on my weblog: http://normanviss.web-log.nl/

    Love to you all.
    How did the Dutch meal at Will’s taste?
    Great that you are all together.

  3. Norman Viss said,

    July 9, 2006 at 11:45 am

    I should have given the URL of my English log:


  4. Abby said,

    July 9, 2006 at 4:03 pm

    Wow, Eowyn!! Thank you for sharing such incredible wisdom and strength and faith with us!! God is truly doing amazing things in and through you!
    Love you!!

  5. Mitchell Green said,

    July 10, 2006 at 3:20 am

    Eowyn, that is an amazing post. I am just so glad that we have an incredible God who loves us so much. It is an amazing comfort knowing that He is in control of everything no matter how bad the situation. I will obviously continue to pray for you and the family. Youíre an awesome friend!
    Much Love,

  6. Allie Stryd said,

    July 10, 2006 at 9:48 am

    Your words are very true, honest, and insightful. How does one respond? It just brings me to a place of deep peace to read this. And it gives me a longing for our Home. I can only imagine what a JOY you are to your Ma and Pa. Along with the rest of your crazy, sweet bros and sis (and in law, of course)… I love you and we’re in prayer for you all. Thanks for taking the time to share.

  7. Mark A. Stone said,

    July 10, 2006 at 12:27 pm

    Your letter was very moving. I stand in amazement how God is being glorified by your attitude and perspective. Your honestly and wisdom are of one with many more years than you have. I will continue to pray for you and your siblings as you continue on this incredible journey.

  8. Nan Powlison said,

    July 11, 2006 at 10:57 pm

    Merci mille fois Eowyn, et que Dieu te benisse!!!!!
    Amicalement ,Nan ,David and Hannah Powlison

  9. Mariana said,

    July 11, 2006 at 11:05 pm

    Hey Eowyn-

    I actually logged on today after my mom told me about your log. She, as I, was so deeply moved. I was really astounded by your wisdom and insight—a manifestation of a truly intimate and sound relationship with the Lord. Of course I adore you-and think you are by far one of the coolest teenagers I have ever met-but today you are an example to me- a woman of stature-one whom I am grateful to call my sister in the Lord. Thank you for sharing your heart-that is hard. Being around you and the family—the ice cream, the moving, the breaking bread together, this blog has awakened in me so many things…and has made an impression in my life that will always be there. I am in constant prayer for all of you-I know His Grace is sufficient…I know He is great beyond all imagination—you are all clear evidence of that. Love to all-cant wait to see you when you get back.

    Mariana Viss

  10. Rachel Sutherland said,

    July 12, 2006 at 2:20 pm

    So wonderful to hear your words of truth and encouragement, Eowyn. You are wise beyond your years and a testimony to God’s goodness and provision through your parents.

    We miss you!

    The Sutherlands

  11. Don "Woody" Boyd said,

    July 13, 2006 at 6:59 pm

    Hi Al, This is Don (Polly’s brother). I just want you to know you and your family will be in my prayers. It’s times like this that makes it difficult to understand God’s plan. But, I’m sure His plan is grand since it involves you. You were a model to look up to as I followed three years behind Polly. It’s no surprise to me or anyone that knows you that you’ve continued to be a man of determined faith, a wonderful father and caring husband. I wish you well my friend. Don “Woody” Boyd

  12. Fred said,

    July 17, 2006 at 8:54 am

    Thanks, Eowyn.

    I remember listening to Handel’s “Messiah” with my then-three-year-old daughter. While the bass was singing “The Trumpet Shall Sound”, I asked her if she knew what he was singing, and told her (she said no) that “We shall all be changed, for this corruptible must put on incorruption, …” and she said “Is that really true?” and I said “Yes, it is.” It was way cool.

    Thanks for your reminder. May that confidence ever be yours.



  13. judi said,

    July 18, 2006 at 12:52 pm

    eowyn, you are a young woman with insight and wisdom beyond your years… your attitude is one of humility and trust, and it is not conjured up nor is it pasted on your face. it is there because you have truly wonderful human parents who live what they believe about our heavenly Father, they have just passed it on to you in the most natural of ways.

    as i read your thoughts on losing your dad, i am drawn to remember what it was like when i lost my dad at 10. my situation was so very different than what you have, so bear in mind how truly blessed you are.

    thank you for sharing your thoughts. God is growing you into an exceptional woman, and He will use you in very great ways.


  14. Laurie Hartman said,

    July 24, 2006 at 8:40 pm

    Dearest Eowyn,
    I read your blog with a small sense of understanding…… I had the privilege of being your mother’s roomate for about six months. In that time, I knew the power that love and gratitude could make on one life. Your mother was so grateful for every effort that I made to love her, that it made me want to be better and better.
    And, dear one, you wrote of being privileged to have a cool Dad for fifteen years. Honestly, yes, I agree with you….. I too wish that he could have another 40 years to be with you and the rest of your family. What a blessing to have…. and yet….. 15 years with a cool Dad…..
    My prayer for you is… that our gracious Father, who is creative beyond all understanding… would multiply these months and years with your father into food for a lifetime. May you so grab ahold of all that our Lord has invested in your father, that you will have an abundance to turn to as you live your life.

  15. laurie hartman said,

    July 24, 2006 at 8:47 pm

    Dear Eowyn,
    Well, as you can see, I am a bit of a neophyte at blogs…. I hit the enter key before being ready…..
    So… how to conclude…. not exactly sure…..
    My heart aches for you….
    And yet, as someone who deals with those who are psychologically ill…. I know the powerful effect of a good Dad…. and so…. I am rejoicing with you in this glass “half full” time.
    So, I guess I am with you with the “glass half full” – in having time with a great Dad…. and I am with you with the “glass half empty” – anticipating losing him too soon…..
    May our Lord bless you in both ways…. with gratitude during the half full times – and comfort during the glass half empty times…
    Many prayers for you and your dear family,
    Laurie Hartman

  16. Ellen Sutherland said,

    July 26, 2006 at 10:59 pm

    I don’t know if you remember me from last summer, but I am Bridger’s “Nana” (Ryan’s mom). Your post moved me…your bravery as well as Alden’s are a true testimony of the strength and love of Christ that has been instilled in you by your parents. Your dad’s legacy is his incredible parenting…not just to you and your siblings, but to the hundreds (thousands?) of students he has taught and parented and mentored and befriended over the years. Your family’s friendship to Ryan and Rachel in their loss of Joshua last year was proof of their Christlike leadership and love. Your dad (and mom) have prepared you well for the joys and sorrows or this life but most importantly, have instilled in you an understanding of the importance of our eternal life with our Savior. God Bless you and your family!

    Love in Christ,
    Ellen Sutherland

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