02.28.07

Sad

Posted in From Al & Libbie, Prayer Requests, Updates at 7:35 am by Libbie

Yesterday the kids had a meltdown day, and both Eowyn and Alden stayed home from school. That gave us a chance to step out of the pressure of make-up work, etc. and just talk, and grieve, and cry, and comfort each other.†

We miss Al. We are so glad to know that he is enjoying the glory of heavenly life in God’s presence, which he had longed for for years, and that knowledge does bring great comfort, but at the very same time his absence here is felt pretty keenly. He was an integral part of the warp and woof of our lives, and now that fabric has a big hole in it. We just plain miss him. The Lord doesn’t promise that he’ll make that ache go away, but he does promise that we will see Al again, and he does promise to be here with us each moment as we live our daily lives with the ache in our hearts. He is steadfastly faithful to his promises, so we know he will see us through, and we are grateful for that.

Please pray especially for Eowyn and Alden as they are back in school today that they would be very aware of the Lord’s presence with them.

Thanks!

Libbie

29 Comments »

  1. susan said,

    February 28, 2007 at 7:59 am

    Yes, Libbie, our prayers will be with you all. I knew Eowyn was not at school yesterday and I said a special prayer for her. I pray today will be an easier one for both Alden and Eowyn. Our love goes out to you all. Love, Susan

  2. Julie Kong said,

    February 28, 2007 at 11:03 am

    Dear Libbie,
    Priscilla was especially thinking of Eowyn yesterday. Praying for you all.
    With love, Julie

  3. Nelson Shane said,

    February 28, 2007 at 12:30 pm

    Libby,
    As you know I am going through similar circumstances now. Last night night was particularly tough as I had to break open the”comfort pack” that hospice provides. My mother had great dificulty breathing which caused anxiety, that had to be dealt with. I called the hospice nurse and then administered morphine to her. Today she is weak but better. I was particularly amazed at he effect it has had on me. I did not expect to be so emotionally invested I guess, but I am. I am so greatful for a loving Savior and your blog. Taking a break from watching her while an aid changes her sheets and bathes her, I am sitting and drinking at the well of grace that overflows through your words. Thank you for continuing this source of comfort to me, and I suspect, others

  4. Allie Stryd said,

    February 28, 2007 at 2:11 pm

    Hey guys—I am praying for you. Thank you for updating us and plain old keeping it real. Lord, pour your Great Mercy upon the family. You are their Good Shepherd. Make them to lie down in green pastures.
    much, much love, allie

  5. Chris Fisher said,

    February 28, 2007 at 6:25 pm

    Dear Lib, your grieving work will very hard because Al was very, very much loved. Without great love there is no great grief. I know that we all would want to do it for you. Each of you will do that hard work, in his own way and time and come through victorious.
    We all miss Al and always will. He was young. He left a big hole in your family fabric and a small hole in each of our hearts.
    I’ll call you for tea after the 9th.
    Love and prayers,
    Chris

  6. Kathy Dirksen said,

    February 28, 2007 at 9:39 pm

    I have been wondering how you all are holding up Libbie, Eowyn and Alden. I know this is such a heavy time. I will be praying that you will be keenly aware of Jesus walking beside you and helping to carry your burden of sadness. He is able.
    Love you guys.

  7. Meenu Hoffman said,

    March 1, 2007 at 6:09 am

    Eowyn and Alden,

    I woke up early and am praying for you both. I miss your father too and I saw him rarely this past year. I can still hear his voice calling to us at church and asking us how we are doing. I cannot imagine the depths of your longing for him, but I can surely understand it. As you know, death is not natural and is not what God intended for us, but He has made it possible for us to be with Him eternally as your father is now. As you struggle through this initial time, remember how much God loves you and how He has you in His arms. We all love you too!

    Meenu

  8. John Stokesbury said,

    March 1, 2007 at 8:20 am

    Libbie,

    My heart aches for you and your family. I know our Father is embracing you in these hard times and comforting you.

    John

  9. Rich Ransom said,

    March 1, 2007 at 10:07 am

    Libbie,

    You and the kids continue to be in our prayers. Thank you for continuing to share your lives with us. I also wanted to thank you for taking the time to help out this past Sunday in Gracie’s two year old Sunday School class this past week. It is amazing to see that midst of your grieve that you are still faithfully serving us and the Lord. Please let us know how we can continue to serve you in this time.

    Many Blessings,
    Rich

  10. The Hackenberger Family said,

    March 1, 2007 at 5:03 pm

    Praying you will find comfort each day, each moment, each heartbeat as you grieve; that God’s tenderest of mercies will bring you an echo of healing for every cry for hope.
    I was reading today and ran across a story about a man who’d died and left a large whole in the fabric of his family and community. One dear family friend with a great sense of humor, but also with a heart full of sorrow, remarked to the grieving granddaughter, “What was wrong with your grandfather anyway, dying like that? Rude, if you ask me! He didn’t ask me! …I’m still angry at him for leaving… All that I can say is that he’d better be having a good time right now because he certainly ruined my day.”
    Yes, it’s like that, isn’t it? We rejoice that our loved ones are whole, well, celebrating, and worshiping at the feet of the Savior they adore. But, in the meantime, it certainly feels like our day is terribly ruined!
    Praying God will hold you fast through the difficult days when there seems to be more grief than comfort….
    You are never alone. Not only does God have you in His Everlasting Arms, but there are countless souls who love you traveling this pathway alongside you.

    Much love,
    Martha for the Hacks

  11. barbarafinlay said,

    March 1, 2007 at 6:19 pm

    Dear Libbie,

    Just to say our thoughts and prayers continue to be with you and the children especially in these early days when you are so missing Al. We miss his reflections and comments on the blog site which were always such a blessing.

    We pray in the midst of your sadness that you will find comfort and joy under the shadow of God’s mighty wings.

    lots of love
    Barbara

  12. Natasha Griffin said,

    March 2, 2007 at 9:35 am

    I have been following your website (can’t remember how I found it) as my father too battled cancer for many years. I lost him when I was 16. I am now 23. I can tell the kids that it does get easier, not necessarily better (as you will always miss him), but easier. You can think back and smile more so than think back and cry – but you always think back. As someone who has been through this I wish them the best of luck – and although we have never met, if they want to talk about what they are feeling, I would be glad to.

    Natasha Griffin, BSW

  13. Phillip & Mabel Hui said,

    March 2, 2007 at 12:20 pm

    Our hearts & souls ache with you and your family as we think about your loss. Streams of tears flow mingled down. Yes, we know the hope in Christ, but yet the present pain of his physical loss is oh so real.
    We are praying for you all and especially for Eowyn and Alden!
    May the Spirit pour forth His blessings and comfort upon your hearts! Pour out your hearts to God and Cling unto His promises through His Word and He will lift you up!

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you!
    In His Love,
    Phillip & Mabel

  14. kae eaton said,

    March 2, 2007 at 2:18 pm

    Dearest Groves, all
    There’s nothing for it, except to weep.
    As Jesus did.
    And that is ok.
    and eventually to listen,
    to the quiet.
    to the dawn.
    to smell the clean and clear presence.
    with love,
    kae

  15. Mardel Landis said,

    March 2, 2007 at 5:16 pm

    Libby, Eowyn, and Alden –
    “Great is His faithfulness….morning by morning His mercies are new!”
    You are in our thoughts so much and we are so sad with you. The only thing I caught of the service was seeing each of your beautiful faces walking back the aisle. Haven’t been able to connect yet to the whole service.
    Trying to get an email for Becky???
    Al’s letter about Lisa’s wedding was so precious…thank you for sharing it with us!
    We love you all and know He will sustain and keep you,
    Mardel, George and boys

  16. Bill H said,

    March 4, 2007 at 5:08 pm

    I only met Al once, back in October at a “wake” for Ron M. He made an immediate impression.

    I am deeply sorry for your loss. I’ll pray for you and your family. Pax Christi,

    Bill

  17. Fred said,

    March 4, 2007 at 6:56 pm

    Dear Libbie, Eowyn, Alden:

    It doen’t sound like a piece of fabric was ripped or cut out of your lives, more like a hole worn through a wool sweater, with lots of little odds and ends hanging loose, and wht’s left of the sweater feeling loose and fragile, like the whole thing is going to unravel.

    May the Lord knit you, each and all, whole again in Christ.

    In his peace.

    Fred

  18. Glenda Vanden Berg said,

    March 5, 2007 at 7:26 pm

    Dear Libbie, Rebeckah, Eowyn and Alden,
    My heart goes out to you all. I can only imagine how empty you feel without the vital, loving presence of your husband and father. May you experience the comfort of God’s promises that he is the father of the fatherless and their helper (Psalm 68:5 and Psalm 10:14)
    Thanks so much for sharing your grief in such an open and honest fashion. I’ll be at WTS for the March Break, (March 13 -16). Maybe our paths will cross. I’m praying for you all daily.
    In His love,
    Glenda

  19. Kirsten said,

    March 5, 2007 at 8:00 pm

    A happy birthday to Eowyn! Miss you all and am thinking and praying for you. Madeleine sends her love too. You can see more of her at thematthewtrumbull.blogspot.com. She can’t wait to meet you.

    Much love to all of you. We wanted to be with you at the memorial service, but were blessed to participate via webcast. Thank you!

    Hugs,

    Kirsten

  20. Donna Jennings Garcža said,

    March 6, 2007 at 8:20 pm

    just wanted to say hello, i am praying for you all, love you very much but I know that you are so special for so many people, even more importantly you are precious to the Lord. Thanks for sharing your lives with us.
    Love, i miss you all,
    Donna

  21. Maria Heller said,

    March 7, 2007 at 11:47 am

    Hello Groves Family!
    I have been wanting to write to you ever since the memorial, however I had a family emergency regarding my sister in which I was the designated facilitator and it has taken up the last 3 weeks of my time. I was deeply moved by the memorial and hoped that your reflections would be posted so I could share them with close friends and family. Eowyn and Alden, I think you both did an exceptionally well job. also, I’m sorry for not speaking to you at the funeral, I spoke to Alden briefly that day and explained that I had come down with severe abdominal pain/cramps during the memorial. I was unable to stand up, I felt so helpless, and it wouldn’t subside. I had to go home and lie down and every time I tried to get up, it would start all over again (I felt OK by the next day). You have been in my prayers, Maria Heller

  22. Jennifer White said,

    March 7, 2007 at 5:53 pm

    Libby, Alastair, Becky, Eowyn, and Alden,
    I read on a blog today that John Piper’s dad passed yesterday. The blog posted his journal entry concerning his dad’s last hours and then words honoring his life and memory. When I read it, my thoughts went to you. It is worth reading if you feel you can or want.
    Here is the site: http://girltalk.blogs.com/
    I love you and continually wish I was there to at least hug you. We continue to pray for you. Much affection, Jen

  23. Gideon said,

    March 8, 2007 at 4:44 pm

    Libby,

    Thank you for allowing us to pray for you. Please continue to let us know how we may serve and support you and your family.

    Gideon

  24. kae eaton said,

    March 9, 2007 at 6:04 pm

    Dearest Libby,
    I came across these verses in some reading of ancient mystics,
    Hadewijch (13th century Beguine),
    and
    thought of your sadness and present desert state:

    Knowledge escapes me [I am]
    beyond understanding and
    far beyond sense.
    Therefore I must be silent
    and still remain
    where I am.

    But it resembles a desert
    to be there
    in this way
    because there neither
    sense nor word
    can obtain or achieve anything.
    (Mengeldicht 19:88-96)

    and then elsewhere of transforming love (minne):

    With the power of love
    thought must
    from herself
    be wrest,
    and forcibly turned
    to the transcendent.

    There she will be led,
    purged, enlarged
    in obscure ways
    and be raised up
    into a noble existence
    as the triumph of grace.
    (Mengeldicht 18:7-18)

    for what it’s worth,
    and with deep love,
    kae

  25. Brigitta Good said,

    March 9, 2007 at 8:32 pm

    I am a little late on this comment, I thought now that Al has pasted on, this blog would end. But when did the Groves ever stop working for God in ways none of us would think of. I am still praying for all of you, essecially Alden and Eowyn. I could never imagine losing my father,then feeling the urge to live life as if nothing ever happend, as many around me would. I pray for you guys specifically as you come home from school every day. It must be horrible to come home to that empty spot where your dad used to sit. I knew Mr.Groves(Al) as a strong willing servant of God, Me and my family have seen this rub of on every kid(with the contribution of Mrs.Groves of coarse) Both my family and I know all of you are going through a very difficult time, I know that me and my family will always be willing to talk to any of you about life.
    My prayers are still with you
    Love
    Brigitta

  26. Steve Hailstone said,

    March 10, 2007 at 6:14 am

    Libby & family,

    Still praying for you in Quakertown.

    Steve

  27. Grace and Tsun En Lu said,

    March 10, 2007 at 12:30 pm

    Dear Libbie:
    How was the day when Alden and Eowyn back to school? Any further prayer requests?

    We miss professor Groves as well. When we prepares Sunday schools, sermons, review our notes, or just talking about theology, we remember what professor Groves talked about in OTHT class. Indeed, he lives among us, not physically, but he has contributed so much in our lives, and has been a precious ambassador of Christ to people around him. It makes us sad that we could not see him around anymore.

    But you are right, pain and loss is temporarily, there is the eternal life waiting ahead of us in Christ. While suffering, there is always a hope that protects us from being too sad. While griefing, there is always a voice telling us that the living God is with us. Ond day, we will see professor Groves and all the saints in the presence of God’s great glory!

    We hear you, Libbie, and we grief the loss together with you and your children.

    Love, and cares,
    Grace and Tsun En Lu

  28. Fred said,

    March 29, 2007 at 8:11 pm

    Hi, again, Libbie.

    I found this passage which I copied from Duel of Eagles, an air history of WW II in Europe. They were written by a French pilot flying with the RAF (for doing which he was convicted in absentia of treason by the Vichy government):

    “If one day my wings are broken in the blue sky and I fall to earth on my way back to God, may these lines bring to my mother and my father the last thoughts, the desires and the fondest dreams of their beloved son.

    “When my machine is mortally hit and refuses to answer, when i can no longer do my duty and my task is finished, when I fall I shall know an infinite, longed-for peace and shall sing with all my heart: Gloria in excelsis Deo.

    “Think of those few moments before the final anguish, before I die, moments which strike such terror in people’s minds that they shrink from them as if they were abominable. Bless them with me! They are gifts of the Almighty Judge.”

    And so we think, and we bless the God who raises up, who is also the God who casts down, and we say Amen and Amen.

    I hope that you all are finding strength and encouragement from the Lord’s love and strength and grace in and through each other. May he bless you all most richly for Jesus’ sake.

    In Christ’s peace.

    Fred

  29. Veronica said,

    October 29, 2015 at 11:12 am

    Here in Brooklyn and it’s not going to be much of a Halloween for me. Made it thru Hurrican Sandy, but it is a mess here. Can’t complain beuacse I’m safe but there is so much work to be done. Thankful for all of the police, firefighters, and hospital staff for keeping everyone safe! Looking forward to returning home to OR this December. I will take the pouring down rain over this any day!! Happy Halloween everyone!

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